For three weeks we ate like the locals, immersing ourselves in Japan's traditional cuisine. Everything about Japanese meals and food choices is very different compared to western cuisine. From the portions, to the presentation, to specific dishes and food choices, each meal was a new discovery. Meals are an important part of their culture, and I would say almost ritualistic.
Firstly, the presentation. Every meal is served on a small tray with a specific number of small dishes for each food. The chopsticks also have a specific spot on the tray, always placed at the lower end marking the barrier between the person and the food, and typically rest on a "pillow."
Additionally, rather than using napkins, a Japanese table setting typically includes either a small towel or a wrapped hand wipe to first clean our hands. The Japanese, I came to learn, are sticklers for cleanliness. This was a consistent presentation whether at a traditional formal multi-course meal or a one-course meal at a small local restaurant. We had to ask for napkins if needed.
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| chopsticks resting on a pretty stone pillow on a round tray |
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| chopsticks resting on a stone pillow separating the diner from the food at this multi-course dinner, with towel to clean hands |
When we visited a Japanese couple in their home in Kanazawa, the hostess, Nobuko Yoshigami, showed us their kitchen and gave us a short lesson on Japanese meal etiquette. For lunch she typically prepares four specific dishes while for dinner there are five. Each dish is used for specific foods. The cornerstone of the meal is miso soup, a small bowl of rice, and smaller plate of some type of pickled veggies like ginger, cucumber, radish, lotus root, bamboo shoots etc,. And the other dishes are for whatever else is being served, like a protein that is fish, chicken, pork or beef, and some other type of vegetables. Green tea is served with the meal.
During our visit, our hostess also demonstrated the correct way to eat miso soup: hold the soup bowl in your left hand, chopsticks in the right hand, sip the soup broth from the bowl with the chopsticks holding back any chunks, then use the chopsticks to shovel some of the chunks (seaweed, cabbage, onion, tofu, etc) into your mouth. The chopsticks are held at an angle with ends pointing up, never down. I also learned that typically, miso soup and the pickled veggies are consumed at the end, to aid in digestion and cleanse the palate.
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| correct way to eat miso soup and hold chopsticks |
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| lunch tray and dinner tray, with chopsticks correctly placed on their pillow |
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| pickled veggies, rice sprinkled with seaweed flakes, soy for dipping, tempura prawns, okra and Japanese potato root mash |
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| mushrooms, pickled veggies, salmon roe as a starter |
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| dessert is not typically part of a meal but for this final traditional, several-course meal, we had this for dessert |
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| sashimi (salmon and scallops), grilled eggpalnt, soy, and edamame for this first course |
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| artistically arranged fish on piece of squash |
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| miso soup (bowl with lid), tempura prawns, rice, pickled cucumber, seaweed and carrots |
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| cream of corn soup, sauteed veggies and either chicken or fish, dumplings |
My first thought was always how many dishes are used with each meal, and how much washing up is required! Artistic and beautiful, yet intensive and laborious - those words crop up very often. Our hostess in Kanazawa showed us her drawer of dishes -
And this is her dishwasher - compact like so much else in Japan.Our hostess's kitchen was quite small, tiny in fact compared to American kitchens in most homes, yet there was plenty of storage. She opened one cupboard with her storage containers filled with various dry goods like rice, tea etc. Her countertop housed several appliances - a microwave, bread maker, toaster oven, and rice maker. Again, all were smaller and more compact than ours yet certainly adequate enough to prepare mulitple courses in small portions. My second thought was how long meal preparation must take for this many various dishes. When asked, our guide Osamu assured me they keep things simple at his home. His wife prepares a few dishes for the week. Rice and miso soup are a staple as are pickled veggies with a few other fresh veggies and some form of fish or pork.By comparison, everything in the US is extra large: our homes, our kitchens, appliances, utensils, crockery, cooking equipment, and mostly our meals. At first glance when presented with my Japanese meal, I wondered how such tiny portions could ever be filling or satisfying. By the end of the meal, I felt quite full and was never hungry. I found that intriguing. Perhaps that is why we didn't see overweight or obese Japanese.
Additionally, it is customary to follow the Confucian practice hara hachi bu which instructs one to eat until 80% full. There is some evidence that people who follow this advice have one of the lowest rates of illness from heart disease, cancer, and stroke and a fairly long life expectancy. This is certainly true in Okinawa which is one of the Blue Zones in the world with people living to over 100. Small portions offered in small dishes certainly has its benefits.
That is not to say that there are no chubby Japanese. We had the privilege of spending a morning with two retired sumo wrestlers who also cooked for us and shared their sumo stew, chanko nabe, with us.
They consume this stew daily, one potful shared by two wrestlers. It was sufficient for our group of 16. Which only emphasized that it's not what you eat but how much you eat that adds the pounds. The stew was delicious, brimming with seaweed, cabbage and fried tofu, onions, mushrooms, carrots and small chunks of potato, and was also served with a small bowl of rice as well as some pickled veggies.Mostly all of our included meals were pre-arranged with small local restaurants where we ate. Choices always included either cooked fish or sushi, chicken or pork, or vegetarian. Each meal typically included rice, miso soup, a tiny helping of pickled veggies and one other cooked vegetable which could be two pieces of okra or two small pieces of eggplant, squash, yam etc. We also had a choice of rice or udon noodles and occasionally were offered tempura.
We ate grilled eel for the first time, a culinary delight that Osamu was very excited for the group to try. After removing our shoes, we sat on cushions at a low table on a raised platform covered with tatami mats in this restaurant in the Nakamise-dori Street in Tokyo.
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| our lunch tray with our order of grilled eel |
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| tasty eel on a bed of rice, pickled veggies, and miso soup |
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| shiitake mushroom with sesame and grilled fish |
Sake and plum wine were on offer as well as green tea. The meal included cooking our own meat and veggies in a hot pot at the table. And the final course was miso soup, rice and a few pickled veggies, followed by a light dessert of a couple of slices of fruit. We were more than satisfied after that sumptous spread that lasted a couple of hours.
A hot pot meal or nabe is a different type of Japanese cuisine that we enjoyed on other occasions as well. The raw ingredients, beautifully presented, are cooked by each diner at the table, typically in a ceramic pot over a small canister of gas that fits into the burner. Once the ingredients are cooked, you remove them into a smaller bowl using chopsticks or a spoon that is provided. Nabe can be eaten in restaurants or at home, family style. Nabe is particularly popular in the fall and winter months when the weather is colder.
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| our nabe, hot pot meal, in Nara |
Shabu shabu, a variation of nabe style cuisine, is also popular and includes wagyu beef, but can also inculde thinly sliced pork, chicken or fish. Metal rather than ceramic pots are typically used for shabu shabu cooking. We enjoyed our shabu shabu experience in Hakone. The meats are sliced so thinly that they cook very quickly in the broth.
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| shabu shabu cuisine experience in Hakone |
When we were in Hiroshima, we ate an okonomiyaki pancake, which is a Hiroshima speciality. Rather than mixing all the ingredients with the batter like the Tokyo monjayaki, okonomiyaki starts out with first making a thin crepe-style pancake on the griddle that is then topped with layers and cooked with more layers added.
This particular restaurant was especially popular. Located on the third floor with steep steps, it looked more like a backstreet dive, was extremely crowded with folks waiting for those at the table to finish and leave. In fact, as we were eating our pancakes, the cook was already taking orders from the folks standing behind us! This was obviously not a leisurely dining experience but likely more like our fast food equivalents.
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| Once a rich merchant's home with a separate building for storing rice, Seto House, now a community home in Ashigara, preserves traditional ways of a past lifestyle |
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| starting the fire to cook the rice at Seto House |
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| on the small dish at the top is raw ginger and a jalapeno pepper with sauce |
The rice balls resembled more of a conical than a round shape after we squeezed them in the palms of both hands clasped together. The rice is a sticky rice variety used specifically for such dishes.
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| onion, mushrooms, cabbage, scallions, and fried tofu |
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| proof that Michael is quite capable with a knife and cutting board |
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| ladling the now cooked rice that we helped wash - any rice sticking to the bottom of the pot is considered a real treat |
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| miso soup with the ingredients we helped chop |
When we were in Kanazawa, we visited Nanto, where we had an opportunity to make our own mochi, a traditional Japanese treat typically eaten at New Year's. Made from pounded sticky rice (which is different from regular white rice) and water, mochi was once made at home and also eaten by the samurai on the battlefield because it lasts longer than cooked rice.
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| the pounding is accompanied by a rhythmic sing-song, where in days past a whole village would participate in the mochi making |

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| the rice used for mochi making (on the right) is different from regular rice, more glutinous, and the grains resembled an arborio rice, also a creamy rice |
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| the rice is pounded into a sticky substance which here is about to be coated with rice bran |
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| we ate the mochi we made, one on the sweeter side coated in the rice bran, the other savory, with a dab of soy on it |
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| our first macha tea experience at a tea house and tasting mochi treats with red bean paste inside |
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| this mochi was coated with a rice powder |
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| cucumber, tofu strip, okra, avocado slice, fried tofu pocket stuffed with rice, pickled daikon, and seaweed selection |
Finally we settled for a chicken with salad and a salmon with rice to share. Everything was fresh, delicious and satisfying, and the best take-out meal I ever ate while traveling.














































































